SINCE THE BEGINNING OF TIME, WOMEN HAVE BEEN SEDUCING MEN

I am not an expert, but from what I have observed – I have concluded that men should be very careful in relationships with other women. Special precaution should be given to women in platonic friendships. This type of relationship can be as hazardous as a man’s relationship with a provocative woman. Where is the danger in a female-male platonic friendship? The danger lies in a combination of men’s weakness for women and women’s power to seduce.

Robert Greene, in The Art of Seduction (2003), states that seduction is the most subtle, elusive, and effective form of power to get what you want by manipulating one’s greatest weakness: the desire for pleasure. Since the beginning of time women have been seducing men. The art was learned as a result of women being weaker under the control of men. Women had no other choice than to use seduction as their only source of power. Women began to understand that if they were dependent on men through force, then they could have men become dependent on them through pleasure.

Whether it was Jezebel, Delilah or Eve, even biblical history has shown us how lust for women led men to commit all sorts of atrocities. Way too many times I hear men confess that they don’t know why or how they succumbed to such a woman’s seduction, especially from a platonic friend. Women have the power to passive-aggressively seduce men through a platonic friendship. This is why women don’t like when their male partners spend too much time around or on the phone with other women. This is especially true if the female partner has a hunch that another woman has an attraction for their man.

How can a platonic friendship go wrong?

Men are led to believe they can let down their guard around the girl in the platonic friendship which creates an open door for trouble. The seduction is subtle but efficient. It starts off by the girl captivating all of the things he likes. Conversations are awesome because this girl is interested in everything your man is interested in: cars, cricket, soccer, politics, wings and beer (just to name a few). Usually this causes the platonic female friend to be perceived to have a “cool personality,” not to mention she is not sensitive or emotional, and laughs at all his jokes. Next thing you know, they hang out frequently, she is part of his crew, they party, crash at each others’ place, and, because I’m a writer, I’ll let you imagine the rest…

This is not about having insecurities or jealousy with a man’s relationship with other women. This is about shedding light on the reason why some women may not feel comfortable with the relationship their men have with other women. Women’s art of seduction and men’s lust for women can be a dangerous combination.  My advice is to always set boundaries even in the most non-threatening female-male relationships. We shouldn’t be oblivious to the possibilities.  “Good fences make good neighbours.” 1 John 2:16