I am not an expert, but from what I have
observed – I have concluded that a relationship should be built on trust,
respect and honesty. Keeping important things to yourself and not sharing it
with your partner might eventually ruin your relationship.
There is such a thing as being an obsessive
liar. Yes. If you are in a relationship and you love your partner too much to
let him or her go, then you might want to take a look at the signs and reasons
behind being an obsessive or compulsive liar:
This bad habit can stem from having a very
low self-confidence. There are several reasons why one would compulsively or
deliberately lie. One of which is having a low self-esteem.
If you do not love yourself enough, then you can never love anyone else
completely and selflessly.
Having a low self-esteem can later on lead to
compulsive lying.
Take this as an example. A girl who had a
humiliating childhood experience or comes from a broken family is very ashamed
of her family background. Before she finally reaches adulthood, she is at a
very awkward stage where it takes very little to wound her fragile ego.
Resultantly, she makes up stories about her family background, and lies about
herself.
Once she sees that her stories are weaving
magic on other people and the stories make them like her, what is the result? She
will keep on weaving lies, and this habit she will take with her until she
grows into a mature adult. Often times, people with this complexity never think
that they are, nor will they ever be, as good as the people around them. In the
above example, once the girl turns out into a woman and she is at a stage where
she begins to have relationships, guess what will happen? Instead of breaking
the chain and finding ways to stop the habit, she will keep on lying to keep a
man interested. In the end, she will never have a stable relationship because
the truth about her will come out eventually.
What if my girlfriend IS a compulsive liar?
If you are a man with a girlfriend who is a
compulsive liar, there is a very high probability that you will get hurt in the
process. Once you find out about the web of lies that she told, will you still
find it in your heart to forgive her? Unfortunately, having a relationship with
a compulsive liar is quite harmful to other people’s feelings. Compulsive liars
cannot help lying ‘even to their loved ones’ and if you have a girlfriend with
this complexity, and she does not want to seek help, then you are at crossroads.
The Cure
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