LET ME TELL YOU SOMETHING ABOUT YOUR EGO

I am not an expert, but from what I have observed – I have concluded that your ego can always injure your relationship. We all have been taught that our ego is a good part of our psychic make-up and that this part of our mind helps to keep us safe from our impulses that can do us harm or harm others. When we take a further look at what the ego really has done, we start to see somewhat of a different picture.

Our ego that feeds our conscious thoughts has a function that keeps us separated from others. This part of our conscious thoughts speaks to us as an assistant to keep us safe and separate from others resulting in a departure from love. The instruction we have received from the ego is to not trust others, to stay away from anyone or anything that is different from what we perceive ourselves to be, and to just take care of our own interests and needs. Some of the ego’s messages are subtle and have gained societal approval surrounding how others should be judged and punished in the world. This specialness and separateness that our egos have created is what has caused many people to live their lives in fear and frustration. Love in relationships is based upon oneness and feelings of joy and fulfilment.

The ego is filled with thoughts and beliefs that you automatically respond to as if you were on autopilot as you engage the world each day. The trick to subduing the ego is to begin to gauge your thoughts when you feel negative emotions. As you start to feel unhappy and frustrated, you will see that the ego is telling you that you need to take care of you and leave the others behind. Your tendencies at that time will be to retreat from others and isolate yourself from the people that could bring you love and fellowship. The act of surrendering to love is a conscious choice to move your thoughts to better ones that sees no defects in yourself or the others that you engage each day in life. This only occurs with a conscious effort to look to the positive aspects of one’s life and the act of appreciating each possession, person, and place that one comes in contact each moment of each day.

When you begin to value you and what makes up your world, you begin to see the beauty in you and your surroundings. Please see my previous piece (hugging yourself). This helps you to get out front of your ego and pave your way each day to how interconnected you are to others and your world. This world and the people in it move together to ensure we have what we need when we need it and that we find relationships that will complement our love and joy. Once you see the world and others without your ego in the lead, your connection to them will be more loving and fulfilling. Life was meant to be fun, joyful, and filled with love. Your conscious choice to live this way is the key to your happiness. Philippians 2:1-10