HUGGING YOURSELF – IT CAN BE DONE

I am not an expert, but from what I have observed – I have concluded that most people are not really happy in their relationships. There is an all important step towards happiness in your relationship and that step is what I call; self-appreciation. Hugging yourself. The world we live in is currently filled with stressful activities and economy uncertainties. Remember that there is a strong link between financial security, healthy economy, stress, job challenge and relationship approach.

It is a pity that the world gives most people very few opportunities to sincerely relate or connect with their lovers and this single factor is seriously causing arguments and complains from the victim in the relationship. One thing I have come to discover recently is the rising rate of people complaining that their partner doesn’t appreciate their beauty. Well, women are those suffering more as a result of this ugly development. Many ladies have told me that their male partners don’t really tell them how good they are looking. It is also important to point out that some men are also experiencing this in their relationships.

Now, when you are down emotionally, it means you will not be happy even physically and you know what that means to your relationship, frustration, endless arguments, complains, fighting and even cheating. When you look at most of these people who complain about not receiving the deserve appreciation of their physical look from their partners, you will discover that they are always nagging. It is because they are frustrated and their relationships suffer for it.

What is self-appreciation?

To appreciate yourself means to adore your personality, to see the good qualities you have, to tell yourself that you’re looking beautiful, to believe in yourself, to discover yourself. You know how good we feel each time our partner looks at us and say: “you are looking good, beautiful, and exceptional”?  It makes us happy, but if your partner doesn’t say it always and you desire it often, you can feel dejected.

I urge you to start seeing the beautiful aspect of yourself. Remember that you cannot love your partner and express love fully to him/her if you haven’t loved yourself first. You must always look into the mirror and appreciate whatever you see there. You should be feeling good about yourself. Don’t rely so much on your partner to tell you how beautiful you are, say that to yourself too. Remember, once you are happy with yourself, you can easily be happy with others including your partner. Psalm 139:14