IS IT TIME TO BLAME THE HIGHER POWER?

I am not an expert, but from what I have observed – I have concluded that your ability to gain a perspective of life that includes an appreciation what you have to offer to life along with your ability to see beyond this life are keys to spirituality. Persons who are anxious, insecure, and afraid of life seem to lack spirituality. They only see how life deals them a bad hand and look to life to give them a sense of wonder instead of making their contribution to life.

When you look realistically and rationally to life and the truth, your life span on this earth will be a blink of an eye when you look at the concept of the time in reference to being away from this world for eternity. The concept of forever is a scary one if you lack spirituality. Self-indulgence and immorality drive many people who really do not believe that there is a broader meaning to our lives that transcends past this lifetime. The meaning one finds to their life is an individual and unique journey. There are many books and resources concerning meditation and spirituality. Numerous people who have been hurt have abandoned their spirituality and have blamed their higher power for their circumstances.

The key to spirituality is giving back and not blaming. I think we all can blame others for their wrong doing toward us but will remain stuck in anger, insecurity, and anxiousness until we let go of these feelings and get back in the game of life. How many of us have made the statement that life is not fair. This is very true, but is taken from the perspective of what is happening to us. What about what we do to others in response to life being unfair. Do we hurt others and blame them for life’s unfairness. Many of the people we end up blaming are those who cannot change our life circumstances.

The biggest step one can make in life is to accept the premise that life may be unfair, but that one can overcome this unfairness through one’s own perseverance and demonstration of high moral and virtuous living. This process entails giving back by demonstrating the virtues of love, honesty, and respect and also includes the discovery of a higher power through spirituality. I believe that the pursuit of selflessness is crucial in your pursuit in finding yourself and the meaning of life. Blaming or taking from others will not show you the meaning and happiness of giving back in ways that demonstrate love, honesty, and respect.

Your daily thoughts and meditations should consist of how you can make contributions to society. They can also include thoughts to help you to process your interactions with others each day and how you maintained the three virtues and appropriate boundaries. You can reflect upon how you demonstrate love and did so as selfless as possible or how you brought out the unique qualities in a person that were not appreciated by others. Or how you owned up to your part in problems that helped someone understand the truth about a situation. I do not believe you have to learn any special style in which to meditate other than finding a way to remove yourself from others and find a way to relax yourself. The hardest part is to focus on the task at hand. This may take time for you to develop. Some people can do this automatically. There are deep breathing and body positioning ideas that can help you. I do recommend you research this for yourself and develop a way to process your thoughts and daily interactions. You should start with your daily interactions due to this being so important in your healing process. Over time, you will be able to expand this to include other things.

The purpose of this reflection is to help you connect your daily actions to the bigger picture of life. Is your positive energy pleasing to your higher power? Can you connect your actions to how you feel? Through quiet reflection time each day and using the virtue format to reflect, this will help you to focus on how well you are engaging people in life. Are you avoiding people or expecting others to give to you? Many victims of hurt are waiting for others to respect and love them and think that this is the approach to how they engage others. Their daily reflections are focused towards self-pity and fantasy that others will seek them out and love them.


So don’t blame God. Talk to God. The reason why you need meditation as a daily part of your life is to regain a sense of the bigger picture of life and to become closer to yourself. Many times, life stresses will cause you to lose perspective in life and make you lose who you are and where your place is in this life and the people around you. Through a daily ritual for at least 30 minutes each day, you can begin to reflect upon life and rediscover the truth about what is meaningful and what is not. Many people spend most of their day reflecting on meaningless information. 

This is information that they do not have control. Do you obsess over those things you have no control? Do these thoughts consume you and cause you to be distant or hurtful to other people in your life? Meditation is like any other activity in life in the fact that you will need to practice this before you get good at it. Most people experience problems clearing their minds of their hectic day to reflect on a message or other focal points to produce an enlightened state of mind. Once you keep at this process, you will gain the ability to see beyond your daily hassles and focus on what you can do to improve your relationships and find greater meaning in your life. Psalm 119:164

YOU ARE GETTING DUMPED!

I am not an expert, but from what I have observed – I have concluded that no one wakes up and just decides to dump someone. There’s a host of elements involved. Here are a few signs you are on your way out the door. We hate to be the ones to break it to you, but somebody had to do it.

1. Your Significant Other’s (SO) friends start acting distant towards you. If there is a sudden change in their attitude towards you, ahh mfwethu, then that is a pretty good clue they know something you don’t.

2. Your SO doesn’t listen to you. And, when I say doesn’t listen you, I really mean hardly ever listens to you (everyone has days when they aren’t the best listeners). Generally, this becomes clear when you are trying to remind them of what you said and they have no idea what you are talking about.

3. Your SO is suddenly busy all of the time. If they truly cared they would be making time for you!

4. Lies, even small ones. Oftentimes this means they are starting a web of lies to cover up the one thing they do not want you to know about. (See my previous post).

5. Your SO keeps you waiting. It doesn’t even matter in what sense. From decisions on plans, to running late for a date, to not calling when they said they would.

6. A good old pat on the pack. According to many behavioural psychologists, a pat on the back during a hug is a sign of uneasiness.

7. Your SO picking silly fights. E.g., putting the seat down again or chewing your gum to loud. Picking minor fights is a sign of emotional distress in a relationship.

8. Your SO avoids talking about the future, even the immediate future, like plans for next Tuesday.

9. Any sentence starting with “we need to talk” or “it’s not you it’s me” pretty much means you should be packing the suitcase.

This list is not all inclusive, but it will hopefully help you decode some mysterious behaviour. Proverbs 3:5