10 DATING TIPS FOR MEN FROM WOMEN

I am not an expert, but from what I have observed – I have concluded that dating and relationships need time! This post was inspired by the dating trials and tribulations of my female friends.

So I wanted to share with you my Top 10 Dating Tips for Men from Women. Some might be pretty, some might be ugly, but either way, they are real stories that women have shared.

1. If you say you’re going to call, just call

This is simply basic respect. If you say you’re going to call, call. Girls have lives too, but if you tell them you’ll call, chances are they excited about that. When you don’t end up calling, it either shows that you’re flaky, or you simply don’t care. As much as chatting is the in-thing nowadays, hearing your voice will go a long way and be meaningful for her.

2. Act interested, but not too interested

When out on a date, conversation needs to be a two way street. So show her you’re interested! There is nothing more boring than a guy who only talks about himself. Yes, girls are known for talking a lot. So what? They are girls! Make sure to ask her questions and be interested in what SHE has to say. I have a friend who does gorgeous ink artwork, and when she showed the guy she was dating he just responded with, “Is that pen?” Come on!

3. Chivalry is NOT dead.

OK I know that we’re in the 21st century here, and I am absolutely an advocate for equality, but I refuse to believe that chivalry is dead. One thing that I’ll do forever is to open the door for her. From the onset till the day we die. It’s such a small and simple act, but chivalry is a huge turn on. Do it.

4. Pay on the first date

The need for me to explain this further is superfluous…

5. If you’re just not that into her, okay, but please don’t suddenly get “too busy”.

Sometimes, you’re just not that into her. And vice versa. And that’s okay. But please don’t play games. Even though it’s scary, the most masculine thing you can possibly do is to be honest with her. I have female friends who keep making excuses for a guy who is blowing them off because he is suddenly “really busy”. They want to believe it, that he really just DOES have a lot going on. But we both know better. We make time in our lives for something that is a priority. If you weren’t too busy a few weeks ago, you aren’t now. Just be straight up if you don’t want to see her anymore.

6. Make the plans and stick to them

Girls like a guy who can make a plan and stick to it. If you have commitment-phobia, or even making a plan that’s a week away, you know, just in case something comes up – then she’s going to question if you can make a commitment to her at all.

7. Take initiative

Girls are attracted to a man who can show some leadership. Whether that’s setting the date and picking the place for dinner, or leaning in for a kiss, show her you’re someone with a little initiative.

8. Put some effort into how you dress

I’m not saying that you have to get all dressed up, in fact, sometimes that shows you’re trying a little “too” hard. Girls like a guy who can dress well but also can be casual and a little rugged. But if you’re going to take a girl out, especially if it’s the first date, put a little effort into your appearance. Don’t just…

9. Don’t call at 2 am

Every girl, and guy for that matter, probably has a story about dating someone who only calls or texts them to “hang out” at 2 am. If it’s in the early phases of a relationship, and you can set a proper date at a proper time, you’re better off just going home to bed than calling her up at 2 am.

10. Have confidence in yourself

This last one is a little more positive than the rest. I don’t want to seem like I’m just ragging on you guys! I understand that us guys have a tough time in the dating scene, too. We all do. And often times we need a dose of self-love just as much as women. So this last statement trumps all the other advice: have confidence in yourself. No matter who you are, what you look like or what you do, just be confident in that. Nothing is more appealing to a girl than a man who knows who he is and doesn’t make excuses for it.