HERE’S WHY YOU ARE FREAKING YOUR GUY OUT

I am no expert, but I have observed and realised that when it comes to dating, there are so many rules and so many things that we could get totally wrong. The problem with girls, is that they start acting too needy and too commitment ready, way to early!

The problem with guys is that they start acting too needy and too wussy. In some ways, you can see the similarities in this situation. But in this post I really wanted to cover some of the things which I believe chicks do wrong when it comes to casually dating someone.

Number One Mistake – Having The Conversation

I’m sure there are a lot of girls out there that have made this mistake. For those of you that don’t know what talk I’m talking about; I’m referring to the situation where you say to this guy you’re seeing “Where is this relationship going?”

I know when it comes to new relationships it can be a scary and a vulnerable time, since most girls don’t know where they stand. But asking a guy this and pressuring him to be more committed than what he already is, will only make him run out the door.

Here’s the thing ladies, guys don’t like to be pressured in that department. If they so much as smell the scent of a commitment crazed women, they are going to be out of there before you even get to finish the sentence.

Rather, I would say that when you are dating, be happy with the pace of the relationship. Be excited that you don’t know where it is going. Be thrilled that to an extent you can’t plan how well or bad this relationship is going to be.

Further, the more that you sit back and relax, the more he will feel the responsibility to lead, then the more the guy will want to take it to the next level. You just have to let him.

Of course there is always the chance that he isn’t into you as much as you are to him. But if you find that he is taking his sweet time - then simply don’t attempt to pursue a long term relationship with this guy, because he isn’t worth it.

Number Two – Developing Amnesia (forgetfulness)

Here’s the funny thing: When some chicks get into relationships, they all of a sudden get amnesia and forget who they are. They start being like their boyfriend or attempt to be something that they are not.

Let me just say that while there is a myth that guys don’t like independent and confident women…The truth is that they LOVE it. They don’t want some chick who just says ‘yes’ to everything that they say. Guys will always shy away from a girl that just worships them and wants to spend all their free time with them.

Guys love girls that have their own life and their own sense of personality. They don’t want you to become more like them. A guy you are dating should like you just the way you are. No better and no less.

If you find someone who doesn’t appreciate you like this, then it’s probably best that you ditch them now.

Number three – Invading His Space

Don’t get me wrong, but starting to date someone is an exciting stage in the relationship especially during the honey moon phase. You know the period where you can’t stop thinking about him and you are in Utopia? That’s what I’m talking about! Even though your feelings at this point in time can be really strong, it’s good to remember that you need to give your guy some space.

Guys are a little slower in the commitment arena and like I said before, they don’t like pressure. When you see them all the time and are in constant contact with them, it makes them feel as if they are going to lose their independence and who they are as a person. They start thinking that “HE” will become a “WE”. That thought scares them!

So my advice would be: even though you want to be with your guy 24/7, resist the temptation to be in contact with him all the time. The best line that comes to mind in regards to this topic is “How can I miss you, if you won’t go away?”

Give the guy the gift of missing you and you will notice that he will be much more appreciative of the time that you do get to spend together.